In order to change we must discover our needs
"Basic changes must always involve basic need. Fulfillment stabilizes the system." pg12
"We can never be wiser than our unfelt needs, nor can we be more perceptive than our needs allow." pg15
"The treatment for low self-esteem is not about trying to feel worthy, nor of ego boosting exercises. Quite the opposite. Treatment lies in letting oneself feel the devastating of not being wanted or desired." pg 13